Why?

When someone is thrust into unplanned and uncharted waters in their experience as a human, it can be overwhelming. It can feel like being thrown into a rushing river, and most struggle to keep their heads above water. That’s where I come in, not to ask you to get out of the water but to extend a hand to hold at the edge of the river. I can’t take the journey for that person, but I can hold space for them to be able to take a breath, look around, get their bearings, and take the steps forward feeling a bit more stable, confident, and with a more regulated nervous system.

I have spent over twenty years as a patient advocate (birth doula) and doula trainer, holding space for folks in the childbearing years. These skills have helped me immensely as I have navigated multiple cancer diagnoses and treatment methods.

I see my role as an emotional and mental support person. I am not partial to what path someone chooses to take, but I am invested in them feeling supported along their journey. Some might say “That’s what the partner or family is for.” Yes, and those folks are also going through their journey, experiencing their loved one going through something very difficult, which is why I also extend a hand to those impacted by their loved one’s diagnosis. It is also essential to be aware of the patient/caregiver dynamic in the relationship that can create an imbalance.

As each journey is as unique as every individual human, I meet folks where they are at and together we craft what their needs are and how I can walk beside them. Hence, they know they are not alone and for those on a cancer journey, I understand at a deeper level because I have also walked my path with cancer.

I like to use the analogy “I am sitting in the boat with you.” I said this to a friend when she was having a scare with a routine check-up. She looked at me and said, “In all the years I have been doing this, I have never felt like someone was in my boat with me. My husband is great, but he just doesn’t get it.” This is where I can serve, using my experience to help others.

For who?

I think everyone could use an emotional support person from time to time, but I do specialize in cancer experiences, supporting those impacted directly and indirectly. Do you want to know how to help your loved one or friend who was diagnosed? Do you want to talk to someone who has experienced cancer without fear of receiving others’ trauma or fear? Are you looking for a supportive space that will not pathologize you or your experience? Are you looking to gain insight into the subculture of the cancer journey? Do you want someone in your pocket that you can call on in times of stress who is not a friend or family member? Are you seeking tools of inspiration and coping to take each day as it comes?

I have also experienced two divorces, came out in my thirties while raising children, I have been an on-call birth doula for 20+ years, along with just being a post menopausal middle-aged woman navigating the world. If you think I may be helpful to you, let’s set up a free thirty-minute intro call and see if we would be a good fit. Fill out the form below, and I will reach out to set up a time that works for you. I look forward to hearing from you.